I know I’m not the only one who spends a little too much time perusing social media. I also know that I have this odd attachment to emails, checking them every few minutes (yes, minutes) to make sure I haven’t missed the world ending or a notification that hooray! I’ve just won the lottery.
But when I really realised I had a problem was when little, everyday things like going to the toilet or brushing my teeth suddenly became boring. I needed stimulation SITTING ON THE LOO! OK, I officially needed help.
When did my life become so virtual? When Alex and I were wandering around the world I would check my emails once a week and we didn’t even have a mobile phone. Instead we’d be out exploring, dreaming, learning and not even thinking about this other world that exists side-by-side with reality. That’s really what’s happening, isn’t it? There’s REAL life and then there’s our virtual life, and slowly it seems my virtual life is strangling my here and now.
But that’s all about to change with my new friend, the ‘To Don’t’ list.
Normally I don’t like to focus on negatives, nor do I like restrictions. But tough times call for serious action. So, while I will continue to have my daily To Do list, filled with all sorts of tasks and work-related jobs that need tending to, I’ll also have my To Don’t list, to gently sift through my priorities and break this meshing of virtual vs reality. But while we all know it’s a list of things not to do, I’m going to phrase it in a way that talks to the positive side of my brain, so you know, I actually listen and enjoy and come to like the thing.
Here’s roughly what it’s going to look like today…
Yoohoo, Yaz. Let’s remember to be mindful of these distractions today and focus on…
– Checking emails only twice a day, instead of every few minutes. Much more productive that way.
– Sticking to one task at a time. Sure, you’re superwoman and are a mad multitasker, but let’s just focus on One. Thing. At. A. Time.
– Waking up and leaning over to check your emails first thing in the morning probably isn’t the best way to start the day. Why not try a few deep breaths and a stretch instead, and wait at least 30 minutes before picking up your phone.
– You didn’t enter the lotto, so it’s pretty unlikely you’re going to win. Plus, if the world was ending I don’t think you’d get notified via email. In fact, only about 2% of emails you get are urgent, the other 500,000 can wait a few hours. It’s OK to keep people waiting for longer than 5 minutes, they’re not going to hate you for it.
Phew! That feels good. Actually writing down all the quirks of my daily life is cathartic. From now on, I’m going to focus on checking into myself rather than checking my emails.
Tell me Happies…
Do you need a To Don’t List?
What would be on yours?