If there’s one lesson in life I struggle with more than any other, it’s trusting in myself. So often I catch a little niggle of doubt creeping into my brain, trying to force me into thinking that I can’t do something, or that I’ll make a complete fool of myself if I even try.
Of course, I try my hardest to ignore said doubt and carry on, only to surprise myself when I do, in fact, achieve my goal with ease. In that moment of realisation, it’s so liberating to kick that distrusting feeling in the guts, and I find it really helps being able to recall on those moments when the doubt returns. Because, like any villain, it does return. Sometimes with more venom than ever.
Take this week for example. On Thursday I’m hosting an event in Myer and for the past few days I’ve been doubting myself and getting ridiculously nervous. It’s scary getting up in front of an entire department store with more confidence than a child-star at a High School Musial audition and having to pretend you’re not scared at all.
But here’s the thing, Happies. I KNOW I can do this. I have no reason to be nervous. I’ve done this so many times and when I broke it all down, I came to the realisation that I needed to trust in my abilities more. I need to TRUST that I won’t let myself down and once I figured that out, and believed in myself, that fear and doubt dissolved like an Alka-Seltzer in a glass of water.
I was talking to my mum about this the other day and she agreed with me wholeheartedly. You see, my amazing mum completed a 5km run on Sunday. Now, this is a HUGE feat for her as she’s on her own journey of wellness and transformation and has, for the past year or so, worked her way down to losing 30 kilos. Amazing, I know.
However, it’s on this journey that mum has found self-doubt creeping into her mind as well. For one, she was terrified about this fun-run, she wasn’t sure she could do it, or whether she’d complete it in time, or whether her knees would transport her the entire way. Everyday she found another ‘fear’ rolling into her mind like a wave of destruction, and throughout all this, she continued to push through and remember to trust in herself and believe that she can, in fact, complete this task. Of course she smashed it. With flying colours. And is still riding on that wave that tried to drag her under.
I know mum and I aren’t the only ones. I’ve had so many friends, family members and even readers express this same sense of fear, or doubt, or self-questioning. So here’s something we all need to think about, Happies… We need to start trusting in our own abilities, drawing on previous experiences and having a little more faith that, yep, we are awesome and we can achieve anything we put our minds to. And that, is my mission.
Tell me Happies…
Do you doubt yourself and your abilities at all?
Have you ever not tried something because you were too scared?
How do you trust in yourself more?